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March 25, 2010 
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To many of my readers it’s been no secret that the last six months have been a challenge. I struggled with a Cheap Alprazolam 1mg lot of intense feelings, and pulled back from a lot of what Cheap Alprazolam 1mg I do and what I like to do. I isolated myself and it led to disaster. I wish I could say that I am completely out of it…and I’m well on my way…but I’m just not out of the woods yet.
In all the Cheap Alprazolam 1mg work I do supporting families affected by ADHD, one of the Cheap Alprazolam 1mg strongest pieces of advice I advocate is having a powerful support network, and Cheap Alprazolam 1mg not being alone. Yet I still did the exact opposite…
So many parents tell me they are Cheap Alprazolam 1mg afraid to talk to other parents about their challenges. Whether it’s not being understood, feeling ashamed, being blamed, judged, or shamed… they tell me they just don’t want to talk to people about it.
And I really get that… And it’s far too easy to Cheap Alprazolam 1mg just shy away, especially after being burned a few times.
But I have Cheap Alprazolam 1mg to caution you to steer clear of isolation as best you Cheap Alprazolam 1mg can.
Whether you are a busy on the go parent (working outside or inside the home), it’s just too easy to feel alone. It’s too easy and natural to get caught up in your world…your own struggles…and to feel like you are the only one!
As a stay-at-home-Dad…my biggest struggle is Cheap Alprazolam 1mg the demands of being a parent while also having a deep burning desire to Cheap Alprazolam 1mg work on my life…my business…and to have space.
I’m telling you this because I withdrew from my support network. I was afraid to say certain things to people. I didn’t want to be judged. I was embarrassed by certain thoughts I was having, and Cheap Alprazolam 1mg felt like others would laugh.
But the Cheap Alprazolam 1mg other day I finally reached out to a colleague and shared some thoughts that Cheap Alprazolam 1mg were holding me back… I couldn’t keep them to myself anymore. I took a chance…and yea…I was nervous about it.
And you know what?
He didn’t laugh… He didn’t judge. He actually connected with me… Heard me… And told me he has the same thoughts. Instantly I was re-energized and felt like I wasn’t the only one. It was amazing and gave me energy that I hadn’t felt in a while.
Now not everyone will have this affect on me…or you. But it Cheap Alprazolam 1mg reminded me that there are people out there who will offer support. And that being alone is dangerous! It also reminded me that I am NOT alone and that I crave connection. It is connection that inspires me…
That might work for you, or it might not. You’ve got to Cheap Alprazolam 1mg find what or who helps get you out of isolation or Cheap Alprazolam 1mg being alone.
But no matter how uncomfortable you are feeling… How scared… Alone… Or Lost you feel… Don’t keep it bottled up inside. Take a chance and share with someone. If they don’t give you what you need, find someone who will.
No I don’t expect it to be that easy. Sure it might even hurt…but I am Cheap Alprazolam 1mg living proof that going through it alone is dangerous and just makes things even harder.
Raising a child or supporting a loved one with ADHD ain’t easy! Believe you me…I get it!!!! But I’m also gonna tell you that life isn’t easy… Raising a child without ADHD isn’t easy… It’s just different. Yes, you’ll face unique challenges for sure… and Cheap Alprazolam 1mg all it takes to get the support you need is to Cheap Alprazolam 1mg find the right people. That’s the challenge we all face in life.
Right on target as usual Rory. I’ve been aware that you were going through something and I’m glad you Cheap Alprazolam 1mg finally took action. When we see a friend in pain, it Cheap Alprazolam 1mg hurts us too.
I think in many ways I have Cheap Alprazolam 1mg been having the same journey. I know that I isolate myself too much and Cheap Alprazolam 1mg spend too much time in my head instead of with other people. And yes, it is SO hard to open up and share.
You’ve offered some good advice that I’m going to try to follow.
Thank you for sharing this.
Rory, I so agree. Isolation dilutes our strength. Acceptance and Cheap Alprazolam 1mg collaboration open the door for solutions and creative interventions. The load is Cheap Alprazolam 1mg shared when we carry it with others.
I think it Cheap Alprazolam 1mg is important to be selective and choose those that are kind to Cheap Alprazolam 1mg be our support group as those that are kind will also be Cheap Alprazolam 1mg just and will be aware of the need to maintain another’s dignity by covering our backs instead of exposing them. It takes a Cheap Alprazolam 1mg little practice and some wrong turns to get there but the Cheap Alprazolam 1mg journey is definitely worth the investment.
I choose by the Cheap Alprazolam 1mg simple things in life, How does an individual treat their family, pets and Cheap Alprazolam 1mg employees because when the heat comes that is how they will also treat me. Once the Cheap Alprazolam 1mg support network is established it is important to nurture this and Cheap Alprazolam 1mg give back, then there will be resources available in the time of need
Amy Price PhD
Dear Rory,
I understand completely where you are coming from. I was raised in a Cheap Alprazolam 1mg strict home where we were told we should NEVER share our problems with others, for Cheap Alprazolam 1mg we should not tell anyone that we had problems. When I married and moved 5,000 miles from home, I kept those ‘problems’ with me and Cheap Alprazolam 1mg after 18 years in an interracial marriage I got out from Cheap Alprazolam 1mg living with a spouse who would not share his problems (an oriental) and did not want to hear mine. Being a Cheap Alprazolam 1mg single parent for 10 years and having a supportive church family, I finally began to Cheap Alprazolam 1mg release all of those years of frustration and came out of my isolation. Now that Cheap Alprazolam 1mg I am a grandparent of an ADHD grandson, I know how important it Cheap Alprazolam 1mg is for myself and for him to have a trusted friend to Cheap Alprazolam 1mg go to and ‘let it all out.’ My grandson and I both see the same psychologist (his parents have no interest in getting help) and my grandson (a teenager) shares much with me that Cheap Alprazolam 1mg he does not feel comfortable sharing with his parents (mainly because they are Cheap Alprazolam 1mg not together and he has one very negative step-parent). I also have Cheap Alprazolam 1mg very good raport with the 10 members of my small Bible Study class which is Cheap Alprazolam 1mg presently working on healing our past hurts and moving on. We have Cheap Alprazolam 1mg also done studies on relationships and dealing with the ‘unloveable’ in our lives.
Keep up your Cheap Alprazolam 1mg good work and may you continue to help others and remember to Cheap Alprazolam 1mg take care of yourself.
Martha Albin
P.S. The one person who Cheap Alprazolam 1mg has helped me to put my priorities straight is my psychologist who Cheap Alprazolam 1mg himself struggled all his life with ADHD. He definitely understands!!
Dear Rory,
You have Cheap Alprazolam 1mg reaffirmed what I have repeatedly been told to do myself but have Cheap Alprazolam 1mg so much difficulty doing. I am Cheap Alprazolam 1mg a mother of 5: three with ADHD, Anxiety and other difficulties related, and Cheap Alprazolam 1mg one with Asperger’s, Bipolar, ADD, Depression, and Cheap Alprazolam 1mg the rest of the pool that goes with it, the last is Cheap Alprazolam 1mg “normal”–if there is such thing–so far. I am Cheap Alprazolam 1mg pretty sure I have ADHD, and have struggled with depression for Cheap Alprazolam 1mg most of my life. I have Cheap Alprazolam 1mg been trying to find someone to talk to for help for Cheap Alprazolam 1mg the past year (I don’t have insurance for myself) and my pastor keeps recommending that I find a counselor. I feel too ashamed to Cheap Alprazolam 1mg talk to most of my family about this, as these problems never go away, and Cheap Alprazolam 1mg I am afraid to wear them out. I don’t really have Cheap Alprazolam 1mg close friends and am a stay-at-home mom, as I have to Cheap Alprazolam 1mg homeschool my oldest with Asperger’s. I have Cheap Alprazolam 1mg noticed that in the past few months, even getting out of the Cheap Alprazolam 1mg house to visit in-laws or go to Church have been Cheap Alprazolam 1mg extremely difficult, and I practically avoid social events if at all possible. I am Cheap Alprazolam 1mg pretty sure that my difficulties are rubbing off on the Cheap Alprazolam 1mg rest of my family. I appreciate so much your Cheap Alprazolam 1mg candid remarks and being so honest with all of us. I will pray for you, and try to follow your example.
God bless you!
Stephanie
Rory, Thank you so much for “coming clean”. I’m glad you’re feeling better now that you’ve reached out. Maybe it Cheap Alprazolam 1mg struck home for me because I just finished teaching a Cheap Alprazolam 1mg CHADD Parent to Parent class and it amazed me how much the Cheap Alprazolam 1mg attendees came to depend on each other’s support! I’ve been Cheap Alprazolam 1mg in your shoes and the best advice is NOT to go it Cheap Alprazolam 1mg alone. I’m glad you came around to following your own advice!
AMEN Rory! As an Cheap Alprazolam 1mg ADD mom with an ADD daughter, I know that isolating is Cheap Alprazolam 1mg an easy path to go down. Ironically, for Cheap Alprazolam 1mg me, the worse I begin to feel, the more I isolate, a Cheap Alprazolam 1mg vicious cycle. The energy, as you Cheap Alprazolam 1mg said, that I get when I seek support is amazing. I also find that Cheap Alprazolam 1mg even if it’s not direct support re the ADD challenges but it’s time in nature, exercise, and/or being with friends, it’s vital for me.
You do a Cheap Alprazolam 1mg great job in supporting all of us by being so honest and Cheap Alprazolam 1mg real about your situation. I really appreciate it.
Missy Sullivan
Indeed, being alone may get very hard and even dangerous.
Rory mentioned several reasons why one would hesitate to Cheap Alprazolam 1mg turn to fellow people for sharing one’s difficulties and concerns – like being blamed, judged, or shamed.
Amy Price PhD recommends choosing kind people as one’s support group.
I agree with the Cheap Alprazolam 1mg analysis and the advice; yet I want to add to Cheap Alprazolam 1mg the obstacles another factor that can deter one from sharing concerns even with kind and Cheap Alprazolam 1mg caring people, especially if they are close friends or partners.
One result of relating one’s difficulties might be Cheap Alprazolam 1mg to arouse concerns or worries in the sympathetic listener who may be Cheap Alprazolam 1mg incapable to offer real help. In that case, one might end up feeling responsible for Cheap Alprazolam 1mg causing rather unnecessary unease to significant people. I notice this element in Stephanie’s fear lest she would wear out people of her family if she talks to Cheap Alprazolam 1mg them about her worries.
Moreover, sometimes such caring confidant may turn active, and Cheap Alprazolam 1mg flood you with useless advice and even nagging – all out of genuine concern.
Rory tells about his own success in finding the Cheap Alprazolam 1mg right person. I suggest that, rather unwittingly, he had been Cheap Alprazolam 1mg effectively choosy, until the right person entered the picture.
I think that Cheap Alprazolam 1mg handling the problem of solitude has to involve a careful screening of the Cheap Alprazolam 1mg proper “supporting group”. Kindness of the Cheap Alprazolam 1mg potential supporter needs to be accompanied with capability and with wisdom.
Asher
First a Cheap Alprazolam 1mg big thank you to all for NOT only commenting here, but also in sharing more insight, personal experience, and Cheap Alprazolam 1mg ongoing support and connection.
Like I hinted, I should have Cheap Alprazolam 1mg done this weeks ago and had been meaning to…but like all good intent, nothing replaces action. I mean, you all responded with support. And I am grateful for that…but more than anything it is the discussion which inspires…
Thank you all again!! Your feedback, support, and Cheap Alprazolam 1mg perspective is what keeps us all going forward.
Asher Shla’in makes an important point that I’ve come to Cheap Alprazolam 1mg embrace too. Sometimes, perhaps more often than we realize, we do not move forward because the Cheap Alprazolam 1mg right pieces are not in place. Those pieces might be a Cheap Alprazolam 1mg person, the resources needed, the right circumstances, an opportunity, an insight, new knowledge, or Cheap Alprazolam 1mg a skill. I’m 20 years post AD/HD diagnosis now. I’m very knowledgable about my AD/HD – (though less so about my anxiety, small working memory, expressive and Cheap Alprazolam 1mg receptive language disablities) – and yet I’m still learning what Cheap Alprazolam 1mg works for me all these years later. After struggling for 2 – 3 years with significant illness and Cheap Alprazolam 1mg loss within my circle of friends, what have I learned? That there’s a lot I can’t control and Cheap Alprazolam 1mg that I absolutely need to do things that bring me joy for Cheap Alprazolam 1mg a couple of hours every other day. If I don’t, the Cheap Alprazolam 1mg pressures of the days build to the point where I struggle to Cheap Alprazolam 1mg maintain or begin spiraling downward. Above my computer is an art piece from Cheap Alprazolam 1mg a dear friend that features a Rumi quote, “When you Cheap Alprazolam 1mg do things from your soul, you feel a river moving in you, a Cheap Alprazolam 1mg joy.” That’s what I strive for everyday…joy.
Rory,
You are so right, isolation is a disaster! I had isolated myself without even realizing it. When I went searching for Cheap Alprazolam 1mg answers I found this website and began participating in “The Inside Track” support group. You and Cheap Alprazolam 1mg the others in the group helped me realize I am not alone. I too, had stepped away from my supports. When I reached out to Cheap Alprazolam 1mg them, they did not judge me but were wonderful. I, like you Cheap Alprazolam 1mg felt an immediate lifting of my spirit. Yes, I still have Cheap Alprazolam 1mg issues to deal with but I have a core group of people with different perspectives that Cheap Alprazolam 1mg I know I can count on. Rory, keep up the good work and keep reaching out.
Thank you, Rory!
I am Cheap Alprazolam 1mg almost afraid to say it here but being alone is not the Cheap Alprazolam 1mg problem. Feeling alone is the problem. Being alone is very good for me at times. I am able to regroup and refocus. When I start to get ‘cabin fever’ it’s time to Cheap Alprazolam 1mg do something different, usually whether I want to or not. If I don’t I start feeling some of the same feelings you did.
Oh by the way I am a parent of 5 children who have ADHD. Two grown and with their own families and three still at home. I probably have undiagnosed ADHD myself.
Mylinda -
BINGO!!! Thank you Cheap Alprazolam 1mg so much for being able to say what I neglected to Cheap Alprazolam 1mg include or find the words for. But yes…just feeling alone (whether or not I or you truly are) is difficult enough.
Thank you for sharing. It means a great deal to me.
Rory
Thanks for Cheap Alprazolam 1mg encouraging us to take another look for someone who can support us. I too often try to Cheap Alprazolam 1mg “just go it alone.” I have Cheap Alprazolam 1mg a grandson who lived with me 14 of his 17 years, now lives with his mom. During those years I struggled with all the Cheap Alprazolam 1mg challenges that come with a child with ADHD. All the while he desperately wanted to Cheap Alprazolam 1mg be accepted by his mom who was too embarrassed by his ADHD. During those times he was with me I’d try to Cheap Alprazolam 1mg reach out to others to help them understand my grandson and Cheap Alprazolam 1mg not judge him so harshly. More often than not I met criticism,people avoided us at gatherings, or Cheap Alprazolam 1mg if something went wrong at those gatherings they’d search out my grandson to Cheap Alprazolam 1mg place the blame or frustrations out on. He was a walking target. After a Cheap Alprazolam 1mg while I found the window(time frame) where Cheap Alprazolam 1mg I could sneak him in for socialization and sneak him back out without any harm. So yes, I can Cheap Alprazolam 1mg completely understand the loneliness of living with a child or Cheap Alprazolam 1mg loved one with ADHD. Thanks again for taking the time to Cheap Alprazolam 1mg share with us. Take care of yourself.
you know the write thing its to find some one who
understand u but what should u do if there is no time no money u should find another way or foul dawne
I so agree with not isolating yourself. I think that Cheap Alprazolam 1mg at the beginning, it is a natural response for many of us. But parents should take advantage of available support systems. There are Cheap Alprazolam 1mg local support groups where you can talk with parents who Cheap Alprazolam 1mg are experiencing similar issues. You can join email groups where Cheap Alprazolam 1mg you can “talk” at your Cheap Alprazolam 1mg convenience, ask questions, and know that there are others out there who Cheap Alprazolam 1mg have concerns like you. Your network will grow as you Cheap Alprazolam 1mg start opening up.