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April 1, 2010 
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I think it’s safe to Ambien Cheap No Prescription say that there are some pretty powerful stereotypes about ADHD? And I don’t think I’ll offend anyone by saying that Ambien Cheap No Prescription there are a lot of people who have certain expectations of people once they hear the Ambien Cheap No Prescription words “ADHD.”
But what if we there was a quick and easy way to understand people’s reactions and why they behave the way do…towards people with ADHD?
Please consider for a moment:
- How do stereotypes and expectations influence your behavior?
- How do they influence your child’s behavior?
- And what affect do they have on how your child is treated?
These are Ambien Cheap No Prescription some pretty interesting questions that I think a lot of people consider every now and Ambien Cheap No Prescription again. But what Ambien Cheap No Prescription if these questions deserve more attention than you might realize? What if just being aware of these questions provided you Ambien Cheap No Prescription with powerful insight into how and why your child really is treated by others… And why he or she might struggle just to get out of bed in the morning?
Perhaps the following can shed some light on these questions:
“…our own behavior can be influenced by our stereotypes, and that
activation of stereotypes can Ambien Cheap No Prescription depend on our current state of mind and
how we view ourselves at the moment.” (page 169)
I don’t know about you…but this Ambien Cheap No Prescription quote quickly got my brain spinning in all sorts of directions.
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This book might at first be Ambien Cheap No Prescription about economics and buying decisions, but it really has everything to Ambien Cheap No Prescription do with human dynamics, interaction, and behavior. If you haven’t read “Predictably Irrational” yet, I would strongly suggest you Ambien Cheap No Prescription move it to the top of your list.
The more I read the above quote…the more obvious it seems to me that I already knew this. But in the context of this book, and a personal “a-ha” about how easily we are influenced….it meant so much more. My mind immediately began wondering if this can explain why negative feedback can quickly crush a person’s self-esteem…? And what if the person were constantly getting negative feedback? Does this explain why some people just give up?
But even more so…my mind began wondering if this can explain how and why some teachers automatically believe certain things about a child with ADHD…without ever having taught them before?
What are your thoughts on the subject?
“How We Decide” by Jonah Lehrer is Ambien Cheap No Prescription also a fascinating account of the role of emotion vs. reason in decision making. So often our rational explanations are Ambien Cheap No Prescription summoned and offered as a justification for our emotional decisions already made.
I have Ambien Cheap No Prescription just recently read a blog where a mom wrote about the Ambien Cheap No Prescription positive aspects of her sons ADHD, and then a reader left comments back telling her that Ambien Cheap No Prescription she was basically dilussional and doing her son a dis-service. I think I will send this Ambien Cheap No Prescription mom a link to this article so that she will have Ambien Cheap No Prescription even more evidence to support what she already knew natuarally. If we can focus on our children’s strengths they too will be Ambien Cheap No Prescription able to focus on their own strengths. We know that ADHD is a challenge, I don’t think this needs to be pointed out daily.
I do think that Ambien Cheap No Prescription all teachers are influenced by the ADHD diagnosis. I think that Ambien Cheap No Prescription the more knowledgeable, more skilled teachers, become more sympathetic and Ambien Cheap No Prescription more willing to work with a child with a diagnosis. On the Ambien Cheap No Prescription other hand, less skilled teahers see the ADHD label and Ambien Cheap No Prescription just see more work for themselves and become more determined to Ambien Cheap No Prescription make the child fit the mold.
~Sarah
http://www.tumbling-sanity.blogspot.com
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I believed that it’s human nature to Ambien Cheap No Prescription put people into groups on how they act, what they own etc.
If someone is different in anyway they people look at the them different.
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Blessings to all…
My suggestion to Ambien Cheap No Prescription those whose children are having severe problems in school and having to Ambien Cheap No Prescription spend far more time with various professionals, director meetings, etc, rather than Ambien Cheap No Prescription in the classroom, is to homeschool that child instead.
I had Ambien Cheap No Prescription seven children and amongst those children I had two with obvious signs of ADHD. I knew without any doubt that Ambien Cheap No Prescription the one who was incapable of sitting still and quiet at a Ambien Cheap No Prescription desk for one hour – let alone an entire day – would suffer a Ambien Cheap No Prescription great deal in a standard school setting before the end of Kindergarten.
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ADHD is not a disorder in the medical sense. It’s order that never happened. Was never learned.
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